SMOKINCHOICES (and other musings)

September 3, 2013

’til death + 11 hours

(In our age of impatience and transient love affairs and one year marriages, it is so beautiful to see the gentleness and depth of what was a testament to genuine, to-the-marrow  bonds of enduring love.  It gets me every time I see it;  and this couple  had “it” big time.  Be happy Ruth and Doc.  .    .     carry on

                              In June, Harold and Ruth Knapke spent time together in their room at a nursing home.  The couple died there August, 11  days before their 66th anniversary.

                                                                                                                                            KNAPKE FAMILY PHOTOS


Couple married 65 years die just 11 hours apart


DAYTON — Relatives of an Ohio couple who died at a nursing home 11 hours apart on the same day, said their love story’s ending reflects their devotion over 65 years of marriage.

Harold and Ruth Knapke died in their shared room on Aug. 11, days before their 66th anniversary. He was 91, she was 89.

The couple’s daughters said they believe their father willed himself to stay by his wife’s side despite failing health until they could take the next step in their journey together. He went first — his children saw it as his “final act of love” — and she followed.

“We believe he wanted to accompany her out of this life and into the next one, and he did,” daughter Margaret Knapke said.

The couple on their wedding day, Aug. 20, 1947, in St. Henry, Ohio. They’d known each other as children.

The couple had known each other as children and began their courtship as pen pals while Harold, known as “Doc,” served in the Army during World War II. Ruth would later joke: “I let him chase me until I caught him!”

Her husband became a teacher, coach and athletic director at Fort Recovery schools, the newspaper said. They raised six children.

A photo taken this summer shows him lying in a bed, arm stretched through a guardrail to hold her hand, as she leans in. When she was ailing, he blessed her each night with holy water, daughter Pat Simon said.

The Knapkes had a joint funeral Mass, with granddaughters carrying Ruth’s casket and grandsons carrying Harold’s casket. The cemetery procession stopped at the farmhouse where the couple had lived, and the current owners surprised the family by flying a flag at half-staff.

“It is really just a love story,” said Carol Romie, another daughter. “They were so committed and loyal and dedicated, they weren’t going to go anywhere without the other one.”


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